Have you heard the phrase? I always like to pretend I am in the know but things slip through the cracks in my world just like everyone else’s. One buzz word that has really caught my attention is Gastrosexual. When I first heard it I thought it was a new type of surgery or possibly some sort of sex/food affliction, like you can’t eat and have sex at the same time. Maybe some big pharma company came up with pill to help multi-tasking in the kitchen/ bedroom. But I was way off base!
The term Gastrosexual is a word coined by a British company called PurAsia, who actually did research and published a study in 2008 summarizing the emergence of men cooking. In looking into this a little more I found three definitions from urban dictionary:
1- A term used to describe men who cook, taking the household chore part away from it, and turning it more into a hobby, used to impress friends and prospective partners. More and more, women are finding a partner’s ability to cook as important as other attractive features (looks, personality, status, income, etc.)
2- Men who use their culinary skills to impress their friends and potential love interests.
3- A man who sees cooking as a hobby and not just a chore. Deeply passionate about analysis and innovation and creativity in cuisine.
On a side note: I have also heard it described as a skill men use to con a woman into bed. Hey, I am all for that unless it’s a lie! If you are lying or pretending to get a woman in bed, well – that’s just pathetic. It’s not that hard to be yourself and get what you want. I digress . . .
If you are like me and base some of your opinions on statistics (yes, I know – it drives my husband up a wall), here is what PurAsia discovered:
- 48% of those surveyed said the ability to cook makes a person more attractive
- 23% of men aged 18 to 34 years said they cook to potentially seduce a partner (only 11% of women cook to impress)
Ok…. Now what? There is your information, what are you going to do with it? Well, if you are a woman with a man who even attempts to cook for you . . . . praise, praise, praise him! I do not care if he makes you burnt toast and rubbery eggs. As we get older, it becomes more difficult to do something new. If you admire his attempts, before you know it you might have a mini- Emeril bamming away in your kitchen.
If you are a guy, go for it! It’s obviously no longer a female thing to do to be in the kitchen. You won’t have to turn in your man card, you don’t have to be a chef, and you will be admired & praised for your culinary creations. You really don’t have to know what parsley is or make a huge anything to be admired. Start with something small before you kick it up a few notches!
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Where does the name come from?:
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Guys I need your help!
act that men are visual. If you want your honey to make you happy then you have to do your part.
I have a friend that is the biggest Type A personality I have ever met. If it’s in her head, it’s done. Her house is a showroom (yeah- just try to find a spec of dust), her kids are always fed well balanced and nutritionally sound meals, and they are always perfectly dressed (I think she irons her 18 month olds PJ’s but I don’t have that confirmed), even though she maintains a very stressful career. Her husband, a great guy, has no problem with her doing everything and is willing to “help,” but his spare time is spent, golfing, fishing, fantasy football (or whatever sport), and tells her constantly she needs a hobby. 
Uhhhhh, let’s see. Unless you were raised like Sporty Spice Girl, most of the popular female “hobbies” revolve around nesting or self-maintenance. Shopping, cooking, getting our hair/ nails done, yoga, the gym, scrap booking, pottery making, cooking classes. Or you can be like me & my girlfriends and shake up things with some martinis on the back porch and just talk about getting a hobby.
Jon asked me the question - “how, when a woman is already beautiful, do you make them feel beautiful?” Great question – but let me start with the disclaimer. . . Every woman is different, so if you want to know what makes your specific woman feel beautiful – ask her.
look. A pair of jeans that compliments her booty – look. Let her see you look. Nonverbal goes a long way with a woman.
5) Kiss Her: In public, at home. . . just lay one of those movie kisses on her. Tingle, tingle. Nothing makes a woman feel sexier or more beautiful.
I came across an article from Prima Magazine in the U.K., stating that our Grandmothers had more sex than we do. The survey found that on average our Grandmother’s had sex twice a week while current women are only having sex once a week. The reason they gave are that women have more to do now than our Grandmother’s did.
I know and I understand that men are very visual creatures, I am not try to change you. But I can tell you that there is literally nothing more insulting than being with a man and having him give another woman that up-down look. . .. or up, down and pause.
My advice – if you have to look, use your peripherals. Do it in a way that it is not obvious to either woman. I know you would never intentionally hurt your loved ones feelings, even on a subconscious level, so if you have to look, don’t make it obvious.
