Ok, so I have been touting that though women are complex creatures, all a guy has to do for some nookie is to do something simple. . . and thoughtful. (thoughtful gifts typically give her months of bragging rights. . . it goes a long, long way. Simple equation: Months of bragging rights for the woman = nookie nights for the man. )
My best examples
1) From my honey. I love sunsets, I always feel energized by them. Watching a sunset over the ocean is my thing, like his thing is playing golf. One day when I was feeling particularly stretched thin and he knew it, he came home with a calendar of sunsets with a cute little note. It is not more than a $10 gift, but it completely stopped me in my tracks and every single day I look at it, I smile because I know he gets me. (Yes, is the answer to your next question)
2) Another example is a friend of mine’s husband who knew that eating candy corn made her feel better. A little something her and her mother shared when she was little, candy corn makes everything better. After months of arguing over the details of life, her husband brought home a .99 cent bag of candy corn and stopped her mid- rant. It was the first time in a long time she felt that he loved her, though he said the words every single day. That might not make any sense to a man, but there isn’t a woman out there that could hear either of those stories and not say, “ahhhhhh, that is so sweet!”
Please share any examples you have . . . If you are a woman, what can you man do to get you out of your head?? If you are a man, what has worked for you?
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My wife loves butterscotch candy! Of all the expensive gifts I have ever gotten her, the day I bought her a $1.00 bag of candy when she was having a bad day is the thing she brags about. I don’t understand women
It really is very simple. If men would just take the time to think about it! I can’t wait to buy Cookie for Nookie for my boyfriend!
I may be spoiled, because my husband seems to have already gotten your message! He went out and got our favorite Italian food, played mandolin music, lit candles and got wine that I like. He definitely “GOT” me that night! I can’t wait for your book–it will give him some more ideas to refine his technique!
Little gestures always go a long way with me. My husband has long known the benefit of treats that fit in to today’s economy-I got sour patch kids and a coke for our anniversary this year and was delighted to have something I wanted that didn’t break the bank.
Cooking, however, is not his forte so I’m really looking forward to a man-friendly cook book!
I am forever, it seems, on a diet. Most women are cursed with this inevitible fate it seems. Anyhow, I was constantly on the go, working full time, school part time and I was playing softball in college so watching my diet seemed darn near impossible. The guy that I was dating hardly got to see me and we were sort of growing apart I guess you could say. One day he came to my school, found my car which is a major thing considering he had an entire college campus full of parking lots, and placed a dozen roses on my windsheild. In the wrapping was a little light and some gummy bears with a card that said, “Hope this brightens your day… ps… the gummy bears are fat free, just for you” It was the sweetest thing! To this day I can’t look at a gummy bear without thinking of him
Nothing surprised me more than to arrive home to a bath full of bubbles and hot water, candles lit and a CD playing of my favorite Latin singer. The amazing part is that my husband is in no way Latin yet he knew who I favored without the benefit of being able to see a CD collection since we got rid of them all years ago.
There have even been times when he’s come home with a new release book from some of my favorite authors. I’m just always in shock that he seems to remember the little things.
Yeah, if all men could just understand this…it would alleviate so much complication!! The women are yelling at their men, “you don’t care about me” “you never do anything for me”. And the men are dumbfounded!!!! They think they have to buy you a lobster dinner or expensive jewelry. It’s the THOUGHT!!! If you truly know your mate, you will know what makes them happy. Little or big. Cheap or expensive (if you can spare the cash). It doesn’t matter, it’s the thought!!! I can’t wait to read the book and share with many of my wonderful guy friends:-)
Flowers. I love flowers. I remember talking to one of my boyfriends about how much I loved pretty flowers and it didn’t matter if it was a dozen roses to just some wild flowers picked from the side of the road. The next day I came home from work and he had picked some pretty little purple roses from someone’s garden when he was out working that day. It made me smile and laugh.
It’s the little things that make the biggest differance. Breakfast in bed, doing the laundry, cleaning the house, taking you out to dinner, making you dinner, taking a walk around the neighborhood just to shoot the breeze, flowers, chocolate, ointment for a scratch or burn – what ever cures it, Raiding the bushes to kill all the wasps that you’re allergic to. It’s not hard to pay attention to people’s needs. You just have to listen. Women at least in my case tend to show their love a lot by doing things for their loved ones. Maybe that’s why we love the little things so much, it’s like talking our language.
See… for anyone who is reading this, I am not off. It is easy to make a woman’s heart go pitter patter.
Thank you guys for your replies and the great ideas
I went to West Virginia to help an old friend after she had knee surgery. While I was there I had hoped to go to a restaurant there that makes my favorite Cajun Chicken Pasta. Unfortunately, they were closed for vacation during my visit. Bummer! When I came back home, my husband had made dinner for me – Cajun Chicken Pasta. Randy doesn’t normally cook and I know he went online to check out a bunch of recipes to find one that sounded like what I would have had in West Virginia. It was such a thoughtful way for him to let me know he had missed me.