Cooking for Nookie™

I know and I understand that men are very visual creatures, I am not try to change you.  But I can tell you that there is literally nothing more insulting than being with a man and having him give another woman that up-down look. . .. or up, down and pause.

This is bad on many levels, but to explain the non-verbal communication that happens between women, the one you are with and the one you are checking out, and why this is so incredibly insulting. . . .

Follow me here . . .

I (woman A) am walking with you and you never move your head but your eyes fully check out (and even pause) on a gorgeous blonde with an enormous rack (woman B) coming our way.

After that millisecond of both women realizing you just made a major relationship snafu, neither of the women pay any mind to you. You are completely out of the equation but the non-verbal cat fight between women begins.

“Woman A” automatically inventories “Woman B” to figure out what she’s got to draw the attention away from her, adding to personal insecurity. What I mean by that is no matter how hard we try, there are things we can’t change. (Well until they come up with a surgery to make our legs longer.)

In that same moment, “Woman B” inventories “Woman A” and gets an ego boost, but the worst is if “Woman B” looks at “Woman A” with pity as if to say, “I am so sorry you are with such a prick.”

Ultimately what you are doing is making the person you are with feel bad about herself and giving an ego boost to a complete stranger. Not good things.

My advice – if you have to look, use your peripherals. Do it in a way that it is not obvious to either woman. I know you would never intentionally hurt your loved ones feelings, even on a subconscious level, so if you have to look, don’t make it obvious.